New You in a New Year? Resolutions NOT!!
It always shocks people to hear 92% of New Year’s resolutions fail.
You might think “Are we crazy? Why do we make them yearly if they clearly don’t work?”
Each new year 8 out of 100 people decide to use this one moment in time to completely change their lives.
To me, that’s extraordinary — because the reality is the failure rate is phenomenal.
96% of people who lose more than 20 pounds on an intense diet gain all the weight back within a year.
97% of people who try to quit smoking fail.
And remember that second language they forced you to learn in highschool? Less than 1% of Americans can hold a conversation in it by the time they finish college.
Now that we are a month into 2018, how is your New Years resolution going? Do you fall into the statistics above? Or are you in the minority who are actually still at it, determined to make it work this time? If you are Congratulations!! If not let’s revisit Why New Years Resolutions don’t work.
Are you Going it Alone?
Often when we set a New Years Resolution or start a diet we try to go it alone. This is one of the biggest mistakes we can make when trying anything new. Research shows we succeed when we partner with others to achieve a goal. Much the reason for this is accountability. The biggest successes I have had come when I enlist a partner to encourage and support me. When I’m having a difficult or visa-versa there is someone to talk it out with and help me get back on track.
Did you set Extremely Lofty Resolution?
Often, for some unknown reason we think we can leap mountains in a single bound at the end of December, if we just begin January first, we can do it! No matter when we determine to make changes, big or small, it doesn’t matter when we determine to start, it matters we start and FOLLOW THROUGH! That’s when true change occurs, when we determine to follow through. That is much more important than the day or time of year we determine to start. There is just something about the beginning of a new year or the start of a new school season that makes us want to start fresh and make changes. But your focus must be on long term change, not temporary. So no matter when you decide to begin, determine that this is NOT a New Years Resolution, but a lifelong change in thinking, that way it will be your last New Years Resolution!
Are you using Good Time Management?
Schedule time, put it in your calendar, set alarms to remind you, and have your accountability partner check with you before and after so you are committed to follow through. If you are going to the gym 3 days a week, make it an appointment, just like you would with a business meeting. If you want to lose weight, get a coach and check in with him or her often, so that you have that accountability and encouragement. Weight Loss Fast, Easy, Successful
Did you give up too Easily?
“When the going gets tough, the tough get going”. Change, of any kind is difficult so don’t quit on yourself and your dreams! Whether they be Weight Loss, exercise, writing, starting a business, whatever, don’t quit when it gets tough! And It will get tough, no matter what you do, if it’s worth having its worth working for!! Again this is where a coach or accountability partner is a necessity, they are there to help you through the tough times.
We’re your Resolutions Unrealistic?
Being unrealistic about anything is dangerous. Life is unpredictable and we need to set goals that are achievable. A goal like, I’m going to lose 30 pounds in a month or I’m going to start a business that’s profitable in one month just isn’t realistic. Set realistic goals that are achievable, celebrate those achievements, and set a new realistic goal. It’s also important to set short term and long term goals. This helps you celebrate small achievements, while still keeping your eye on long term success. A coach can help you set realistic goals and be there with you when the going gets tough, to help you trough the rough spots and refocus on where you ultimately where you want to go.
SO WHAT DO YOU NOW?
Try setting Goals with Intention, a set of goals in increments weekly, monthly, six months, and yearly. Next write them down in a dedicated notebook or better yet a Bullet Journal.
Get an Accountability Partner or Coach!!! It is always a good idea to have someone you can confide in and trust. It’s just a fact of life that things are not going to go as planned and be disappointing. Setbacks are inevitable and being able to refocus on the master plan will help the speed bumps of life not be so jarring. Reflections on 2017 and Healing from Trauma
Don’t make all your goals all about you!!! Think about some things you can to do for others. This could be taking a friend to the gym, giving to a charitable organization, even if you can only give 5 or 10 dollars a month, ask a friend or neighbor over for dinner, it will make you feel good and it will be a wonderful treat for them. Giving back is good medicine for the soul.
New Years Resolutions are a set up! Because you put all your focus on an unachievable goal, a day, and a singular focus, when you need to think about long-term success and smaller more attainable goals. Don’t fall for it, especially the diet programs that make a huge push on New Years Resolution setters and just want the short term pay off and aren’t interested in your long term success. No matter what you do, set yourself up for success and not failure all year long.
Make your goals reasonable, attainable, and long-term. Focus on your overall health, not just weight loss, enlist help, a wellness coach, life coach, or accountability partner, and think about others, pay it forward and it will always multiply and come back to you.