I’ve never been a big believer in New Years Resolution, in fact the few times I’ve made one, I never accomplished it! Why is this? Have you done the same? I have a few ideas of why this is the case and what should we do instead?
First, don’t make New Years Resolutions!! Just the phrase is a set up for failure! Just like the phrase “I’m going on a diet”. There’s nothing wrong with the phrase itself, but the way we think about it. When we say New Years Resolution or Diet we think temporary, not long term. Anything we think of as temporary I’d deemed to failure. A New Years Resolution usually fails by February, if not sooner and a diet might work for a month or two or until we lose the desired amount of weight, then in our head “Diets Over, I can go back to eating the way I want or the way I did before.” Then what always happens? We gain all the weight back, usually plus some!
So in 2018 I’m challenging you NOT to set a New Years Resolution or go on. Diet, but to decide to make a long-term changes and small achievable goals. But first let’s look at some reasons New Years Resolutions DON’T work.
Going it Alone
Often when we set a New Years Resolution or start a diet we try to go it alone. This is one of the biggest mistakes we can make when trying anything new. Research shows we succeed when we partner with others to achieve a goal. Much the reason for this is accountability. The biggest successes I have had had come when I enlist a partner to encourage and support me. When I’m having a difficult or visa-versa there is someone to talk it out with and help me get back on track. Coaching Programs
Extremely Lofty Resolution
Often, for some unknown reason we think we can leap mountains in a single bound at the end of December, if we just begin January first, we can do it! No matter when we determine to make changes, big or small, it doesn’t matter when we determine to start, it matters we start and FOLLOW THROUGH! That’s when true change occurs, when we determine to follow through. That is much more important than the day or time of year we determine to start. There is just something about the beginning of a new year or the start of a new school season that makes us want to start fresh and make changes. But your focus must be on long term change, not temporary. So no matter when you decide to begin, determine that this is NOT a New Years Resolution, but a lifelong change in thinking, that way it will be your last New Years Resolution! ANNOUNCING A NEW PARTNERSHIP OPTAVIA WEIGHT LOSS AND WELLNESS PROGRAM
Schedule time, put it in your calendar, set alarms to remind you, and have your accountability partner check with you before and after so you are committed to follow through. If you are going to the gym 3 days a week, make it an appointment, just like you would with a business meeting. If you are wanting to lose weight, get a coach and check in with him or her often, so that you have that accountability and encouragement. Stress Less
Giving up too Easily
“When the going gets tough, the tough get going”. Change, of any kind is difficult so don’t quit on yourself and your dreams! Whether they be Weight Loss, exercise, writing, starting a business, whatever, don’t quit when it gets tough! And It will get tough, no matter what you do, if it’s worth having its worth working for!! Again this is where a coach or accountability partner is a necessity, they are there to help you through the tough times.
Being unrealistic about anything is dangerous. Life is unpredictable and we need to set goals that are achievable. A goal like, I’m going to lose 30 pounds in a month or I’m going to start a business that’s profitable in one month just isn’t realistic. Set realistic goals that are achievable, celebrate those achievements, and set a new realistic goal. It’s also important to set short term and long term goals. This helps you celebrate small achievements, while still keeping your eye on long term success. A coach can help you set realistic goals and be there with you when the going gets tough, to help you trough the rough spots and refocus on where you ultimately where you want to go.
SO NOW: WHAT DO I DO INSTEAD??
DON’T SET NEW YEARS RESOLUTIONS!!! They don’t work, have you ever had one succeed long-term? I have NEVER believed in them or set any to be honest with you. I see them as temporary and usually unrealistic. Instead, try setting Goals with Intention, a set of goals in increments weekly, monthly, six months, and yearly. Next write them down in a dedicated notebook or better yet a Bullet Journal. Journaling your way to Health
GET AN ACCOUNTABILITY PARTNER OR A COACH!!! It is always a good idea to have someone you can confide in and trust. It’s just a fact of life that things are not going to go as planned and be disappointing, it helps to have someone who’s been there and can help you through the difficult times and to stay focused on the long-term goals. Setbacks are inevitable and being able to refocus on the master plan will help the speed bumps of life not be jarring. Are you Suffering from Chronic Illness?
IN MY OPINION MOST IMPORTANT, DON’T MAKE ALL YOUR GOALS ALL ABOUT YOU!!! When you’re writing out your goals in your Journal think about some things you want to do for others. This could be Treating someone to a trip to the gym with you, not everyone can afford a gym membership and often your gym offers guest passes for friends and relatives. Give to a charitable organization, even if you can only give 5 or 10 dollars a month or year, giving back is good medicine for the soul. Ask a friend or neighbor over for dinner, it will make you feel good and it will be a wonderful treat for them.
New Years Resolutions are a set up! Because you put all your focus on an unachievable goal, a day, and a singular focus, when you need to think about long-term success and smaller more attainable goals. Don’t fall for it, especially the diet programs that make a huge push on New Years Resolution setters and just want the short term pay off and aren’t interested in your long term success. No matter what you do, set yourself up for success and not failure. Make your goals reasonable, attainable, and long-term. Focus on your overall health, not just weight loss, enlist help, a wellness coach, life coach, or accountability partner, and think about others, pay it forward and it will always multiply and come back to you. Weight Loss – 15 super foods to help you lose weight